You Have Attracted All Relationships for a Reason

Every relationship you have in your life right now you have attracted to you for a reason. Each person in your life is reflecting back to you an aspect of yourself. Normally, the relationships that you have attracted that you are having the most trouble with, either because the person brings about a negative, angry, or irritating emotional reaction from you, are the ones that mirroring back to you an unhealed aspect of your unconscious mind. Your ego, afraid to be “found out”, is pointing the finger outside of itself to others as the “problem” so that it can keep the spotlight off of itself. As long as we stay focused on what others are doing TO us, we never come to terms with our own perceptions (which are stemming from the illusory self/the ego). Our perceptions of others are purely from our OWN programming and ego NOT from the behavior of another person. If you are trying to understand the reason certain people are in your life, and what this can teach you about yourself, the answer lies in your perception of them. Maybe you perceive this person as not accepting of you, in which case, you must turn it around on yourself and ask,  “why don’t I fully accept myself?” If you truly accepted yourself, someone else’s perceived non-acceptance would not irritate you. Or maybe you perceive someone as not understanding you, or not empathizing with you and showing you compassion. So turn it around on yourself, “Where am I not understanding my own self, and showing myself unconditional love and compassion to myself?” It is only when we love ourselves UNCONDITIONALLY, meaning EVEN loving the parts of ourselves that feel anger, jealousy, sadness, unworthiness etc… Love all these aspects of “self”. Once you have accepted and loved all these perceived “shortcomings” they can no longer bother you. They become healed. Hating and denying our shortcomings will perpetuate the problem of us hating and finding shortcomings in the people we have relationships with in our lives. Once we come to terms with our own self and heal our own psyche and realize the ego is not our true self, we naturally heal our relationships with others. We stop being angered by their reflecting back to us where we still haven’t come to terms with our own unconscious mind. Be honest with yourself. Question yourself, always. Point the finger back inside of you instead of out into the world… this is the most powerful thing you can do to heal the relationships in your life.

6 Comments

  1. Sonal

    What about emotionally abusive relationships? If I heal myself, will I not care? Or, care more about myself more and leave? Or, will he change?

    1. alifethatyoulove

      Technically It could be either. Sometimes, when we heal ourselves, and raise our vibration, our presence heals the other person. Since only people that are resonating with our vibration can be included in our “timeline” we will find that as we get healthier and raise our frequency, the people in our lives are required to do the same, in our presence at least. That’s why we notice that as we go through the awakening process the relationships with the people in our lives begin to heal themselves. However, Let’s say your husband subconsciously chooses to not raise his vibration, You will notice that naturally you feel more and more distant from him. the “connection” you had, starts to slip away. At this point you will opt to leave him, or him you, because the vibrations are no longer matching. You will find someone that is better suited to your new Higher vibration. So there is no “right” answer to this. I do feel like if you are in a situation where you are being abused on a daily basis, the best action to take is to leave until you do heal yourself. Daily stress is not going to be healthy for you, and it is a challenging environment to try and heal in, if you are being abused.

  2. Apeksha Dass

    I quote you from your article, ‘You have attracted all your relationships for a reason’
    “Maybe you perceive this person as not accepting of you, in which case, you must turn it around on yourself and ask, “why don’t I fully accept myself?” If you truly accepted yourself, someone else’s perceived non-acceptance would not irritate you. Or maybe you perceive someone as not understanding you, or not empathizing with you and showing you compassion. So turn it around on yourself, “Where am I not understanding my own self, and showing myself unconditional love and compassion to myself?”

    My question is, if we are able to establish complete understanding of our own selves and we accept ourselves fully, doesn’t that imply that we can be with anybody irrespective of whether they understand us or not? Doesn’t this completely disregard the concept of ‘compatibility’?

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